I have had an experience so devastating to our family that I feel compelled to warn others about. Around mid 2011 my father became in need of full time care and the family hired a number of different live in care givers to provide this care. At one point in time, we felt that we found the ‘right fit’ in a licensed care giver named Aminiasi Babitu (or Mini for short) as the primary care giver who was recommended to the family by my fathers’ accountant Judith Williams. Mini was boisterous, friendly, and we felt that there was a real bond between our father and him.
Over time, Mini became very protective of our father, to the extent that he insisted on being the contact person for any back up care givers and eventually insisting that the only back up care givers were non licensed members of his family. The trust that my father and our family gave him was complete. Mini’s daughter came to live with him at my fathers’ house and my father allowed her to live and eat at the home. He also allowed Mini to host large parties in the home, eventually the food bill reaching $800 month. My father was a kind man and avoided adversity and confrontation.
At a certain point in time, Mini convinced my father to purchase and finance a red convertible 2008 Mustang which he allowed Mini to drive. (License plate AON5823) I now know that the term for this action is ‘UNDUE INFLUENCE’, and the overall result of this horrifying experience is ‘ELDER ABUSE’. Mini drove this RED 2008 two door Mustang to take his daughter to school, pick her up from school, to take her to basketball games and practices and to visit friends. He wound up spending a lot of time away from my fathers’ home and away from the full time care giving responsibilities that he was being paid for.
Upon my fathers’ passing, Mini was given the opportunity to either purchase the car by paying/financing the balance of the loan, or to return the car. He chose neither. He chose to keep the car, driving it without insurance, and incurring parking tickets in my fathers’ name. THIS CONTINUES TO THIS DAY. The police will not allow the estate to file a stolen vehicle report because my father allowed him to drive the car when he was alive. (They say this constitutes a verbal contract) They also refuse to allow the estate to file an ‘unauthorized use of a vehicle’ report for the same stated reason. To this day, my father’s estate is liable for all damage that AMINI BABITU incurs with this stolen vehicle. The SPD (Seattle Police Department) are allowing him to drive this car without insurance. Aminiasi Babitu has violated the trust that my father and our family put in him and I strongly recommend that you do not allow him near your loved ones.
Adult Children beware – some care givers ABUSE ELDERS.